Hey there!
Are you competitive like me? Or maybe you run a business or like numbers? 🙋♂️
In today’s world, numbers drive our vocations and vacations, our labor and leisure.
I love keeping score or measuring my results! But what happens when we let go of the numbers?
⚡️ F5 Fast Files - Short Summary
Transactional giving exchanges material value - and stops there.
Unconditional giving creates relationship value - growing in love.
Expectations turn service into a contract.
Let your generosity go unpaid - the returns compound.
🌨️ Lessons from The Circle
When I was a kid, my dad would always have us shovel snow for the houses in our cul-de-sac that hadn’t been done yet - especially the homes of older neighbors.
One time, before we finished the last house, my dad was called inside. As my brother and I kept shoveling, the woman that lived there came out and offered us ‘money for our services’.
Honestly, I don’t remember if we accepted her payment or not, but I do remember telling my parents afterward.
They could have used that moment to teach us about entrepreneurship or finances. Instead, the lesson was about Service:
Giving with no expectation of return.
🔁 Transactional Love (We all do this)
We often serve the people we love with an expected outcome attached.
“If I cook dinner, you do the dishes.”
“If I clean the bathroom, I expect you to vacuum.”
“If I take the kids so you can go out, I expect you to even the score.”
Now, yes - Families need roles, systems, order, and shared responsibility.
But when was the last time you gave something with no scorekeeping? Simply to give, because you love them.
❤️ Unconditional Love Builds Relationships
If you’ve been around F5 for a while, you may remember our discussion of ‘Value Creation Kid’, which teaches that- value comes in 3 forms:
Material Value (money, goods, labor)
Relational Value (trust, closeness, connection)
Spiritual value (growth, meaning, and transformation)
I’m now realizing that the moment you attach an expectation, you are solidifying a value category.
Relationships only grow through relational value
Transactional exchanges live in material value
👉 You cannot improve a relationship using transactions.
💳 Credit Card Hacking
This clicked for me while watching my wife play the credit-card-points game.
After a couple months, she qualified for promotional points worth $1000 cash.
She didn’t take it.
Instead, she used the points to fly our family to Hawaii and stay at a beachfront resort for six nights. The hotel alone was $800 a night!
By choosing how the value was redeemed, she multiplied the outcome more than 4x
🔥 The Parallel
So it is with relationships.
When you let your time, service, and generosity go unpaid, you don’t lose value -
You convert it, trading short-term returns for long-term relational wealth.
That return is always far greater than the transaction you were tempted to demand.
⚔️ A simple Invitation
Ask your wife (or someone close to you) how you can best show your love for them today. Whatever they say, do it to the 9’s!
No leverage
No scoreboard
No contract
Just love. That’s how relationships grow. Enjoy the relational wealth coming your way, my brother!
Justin
F5 Brotherhood
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